Virgin Till Marriage (VTM)
'WE HAVE TWO THINGS LEFT TO DO IN
The Lady: 'I have been dating this guy for
more than 4 years now. There is nothing
couples are doing in marriage we have not
done. We have lived together, ate together,
lost count on the number of time we have
had sex together. I have done 3 abortions
for him. We have business ventures
together, we do have our bath together.
There is nothing couples are doing that we
are not doing sir'.
Me: So what do you both have left that you
want to do in marriage if you do your
The Lady: ' Sir, just 2 things left.
Me: Tell me those two things.
The Lady: To have children and to fight.
Me: Fight as how?
The Lady: We have never fought before. I do
bottle up my anger because I have lost so
much in the relationship, if I leave him, I will
be at the loosing end. But when we get
married , he will know he married a lion. I
am battle ready for him.
That conversation up there is not a friction.
It took place.
What many single guys and ladies don't
know is that, there is a whole lot of
difference between single relationship and
marriage. Some of you don't have anything
tangible you are going to do in marriage
than to have children. All the privileges,
uniqueness, sacredness, sanctity ,
enjoyments of marriage, you are already
exploring and enjoying it now in your
dating adventure. Lady, you have turned
yourself to 'iyawo ile' in the 'face me face
you' apartment of that guy. You are his
cook, his mom, his bed mate, sex mate, you
have moved your loads to his room one by
one. You are all over him, showing
Dear guy, what exactly are you looking
forward to in marriage? You are behaving
to that lady as if you are her husband. You
are tired of her nakedness already. Nothing
is exciting you about her again. 'see finish'
is happening between the two of you. If you
marry today, what's going to be a new thing
to do as couples? Kissing is not new to the
two of you. Your nakedness is no more new
to each other. Lady, nothing is trilling about
your breasts again. You are not yet married,
but your breasts has suffer in the hands of
this boy. Yet to breastfeed oo, yes, your
breasts is already looking like that of a
grandma. What is new I asked you? What
sex position or style have you not done
May be like this lady in that conversation, the
only two things left for many singles in
relationship today is to have children and
fight. Some of you will see wrong thing that
guy/lady is doing that you don't like, you will
keep quiet and bottle your anger. You won't
fight and sought it out now, you are waiting
to get into marriage and then start fighting.
You have enjoyed all the 'peace ' of marriage
in dating, only to get into marriage and start
Hear me well dear singles, don't cross some
lines. You are not married until you are
Reserve romance, sex, physical intimacy,
joint account, bathing together, wearing the
same clothes, and many other things for
marriage. There should be some exciting
things you are looking forward to do
together as couples. Don't do everything you
should do in marriage in your dating/
Have self control. Right thing done at a
wrong time will make it a wrong thing!
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